Peter Kane – Relationship Theorist and author "The Monogamy Challenge"

The Relationship Transformations Blog

Our Vulnerability Makes Us Hypocrites

It is natural and normal for us to feel vulnerable. Our physical existence results in some real safety issues and preferences. Especially when we were young we needed to be cared for to survive. As a baby we feel safer […]

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What Does Your Bucket Hold?

Talk of the “Bucket List” seems to have increased in recent years. I feel that our focus may be overly tied to consumption or the cool experiences we should want before we die. I sometimes hear this as similar to […]

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Expectations, Context and Acknowledgement

Does the history or context of a relationship effect what you need to feel acknowledged? For example, if you have a history of shared finances, are you then more likely to need to feel credited or acknowledged for your history […]

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Empathy, Structural Integrity, and Transformation

Do we need empathy? Does empathy increase the strength or structural integrity of a relationship? I am continuing with my theme: What do we need? What do we need to feel connected and nurtured in relationships? How can we create […]

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Is It Healthy to Need?

Learning to accept and embrace the validity of what we want or need has long been a central theme of my work. Becoming conscious of how our needs have been ignored, neglected and even shamed, has far reaching effects. Being […]

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To Measure

The new year is well underway and you may have noticed that it is an intense time in your life. It is a time where people are working through a lot of their past issues. Even the past few weeks […]

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Do We Need Empathy?

It truly seems to be an intense year in our world and in all kinds of relationships. It is my intent to post two per month, but I have not posted a blog since June. My absence is not for […]

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Peter Kane Radio Show Archives: Relationships, Transformation, Sexuality, and Breathwork

Peter is doing a series of radio interviews with Dr. Pat. These shows are available live in Seattle and KKNW 1150 AM as well as numerous other stations nationally. You can also listen on-line or on archives. Here are some […]

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Venus: What do We Need?

The Venus transit was earlier this week but its impact may be felt strongly until Venus goes direct on 6/24. I like this topic because it resonates with some core themes that I have always tried to focus on with […]

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Releasing Defense, Creating Peace

People often claim to be listening when what they are really doing is calculating a rebuttal. Although their rebuttal may be valid, responding to someone in a defensive way only escalates relationship conflicts. People want to be “heard” and to […]

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