We tend to recreate issues from our past in our current relationships. We hold our past experiences subconsciously as beliefs and expectations, and the metaphysical power of our thoughts results in our repeating the past. This also has a nearly
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One of the more abstract themes of my work and my book is self-soothing. Regardless of our issues, or the kind of relationships we are working with, becoming better at self-soothing is a critical part of healing and creating success.
Read more →Do we need empathy? Does empathy increase the strength or structural integrity of a relationship? I am continuing with my theme: What do we need? What do we need to feel connected and nurtured in relationships? How can we create
Read more →I increasingly hear talk about Sacred Relationships or Divine Feminine/Masculine aspects of self, what they need, and what they need from the other. What does it mean to be firmly grounded in our sacred inner feminine and/or masculine? And, what
Read more →Does the history or context of a relationship effect what you need to feel acknowledged? For example, if you have a history of shared finances, are you then more likely to need to feel credited or acknowledged for your history
Read more →Learning to accept and embrace the validity of what we want or need has long been a central theme of my work. Becoming conscious of how our needs have been ignored, neglected and even shamed, has far reaching effects. Being
Read more →It truly seems to be an intense year in our world and in all kinds of relationships. It is my intent to post two per month, but I have not posted a blog since June. My absence is not for
Read more →Peter is doing a series of radio interviews with Dr. Pat. These shows are available live in Seattle and KKNW 1150 AM as well as numerous other stations nationally. You can also listen on-line or on archives. Here are some
Read more →The Venus transit was earlier this week but its impact may be felt strongly until Venus goes direct on 6/24. I like this topic because it resonates with some core themes that I have always tried to focus on with
Read more →People often claim to be listening when what they are really doing is calculating a rebuttal. Although their rebuttal may be valid, responding to someone in a defensive way only escalates relationship conflicts. People want to be “heard” and to
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