The term commitment phobia invokes images of the fear being suffocated or trapped in a bad relationship. While this is part of the issue, a more common pattern, and more valuable use of the term is that people fear commitment
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Next, I would like to explore perfectionism and how it can be an aspect of poor or non-existent lovemaking. People often associate perfectionism with working tirelessly to improve something or with obsessively agonizing over how to make something perfect. I
Read more →I don’t know anyone who would publicly admit to asking me to write this, but I do know people who will appreciate it. There are many people who are frustrated with their partners’ lovemaking or lack of it. There are
Read more →This is an intense time. It is an intense week, in an intense year, in an intense life. Now more than ever I think it is a good time to ask ourselves why do we do the things we do?
Read more →The power of the subconscious mind has always been a central topic in my work. How and why do we attract a certain result or kind of relationship? What are we most attracted to and why? And, how can we
Read more →What is the purpose of Valentines day? How does it differ for men, women, and children? How can we best utilize the day, transcend the myths and social conditioning, and make it a day that supports our relationships? I feel
Read more →This article was first published in Breathe. www.breathe-mag.co.uk. I share it with you now because it is timeless, and will serve as a good reiteration or expansion of what I share in my book about communication and embracing your partners differences. Attack
Read more →This article was first published online at Evergreen Monthly, June 2005 Intimacy is not just about love and connection in close partnerships. Intimacy is part of our relationship with everyone we contact. That’s a lot of people — and a lot of
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